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<\/a><\/p>\nPhoto <\/span><\/span>\u00a9 London Scout<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n Step one or prevention: befriend your child<\/p>\n If you are only trying to be a good parent, you will never be able to be your child\u2019s friend.<\/p>\n He is not always looking for advice or for life lessons. He is also looking for sharing his problems and he\u2019s trying to find someone who can trust. Because sharing is bounded to trust.<\/p>\n In order to be close to your child, you need to listen to what is going on \u201cunderneath\u201d the lie.<\/p>\n You will notice that your child is really smart and he leaves clues for you. He wants you to be his friend, but you have work for that. So you need to search and find the clues and give them the proper meaning.<\/p>\n Step two: consider your child\u2019s developmental age<\/p>\n Adults are like children \u2013 both have different development stages in their lives.<\/p>\n Understanding your child also means understanding the stage that his life is at and figure out the way he\u2019s perceiving things around himself.<\/p>\n If your child is 5 years old, he\u2019s not lying when he is telling you about the fairy that\u2019s living next door. He is simply exploring his imagination and tries to discover as much as he can about life, in general.<\/p>\n Step three: teach your child that freedom means responsibility<\/p>\n When your child is lying to you, he needs to understand that he is responsible for whatever he\u2019s saying.<\/p>\n Every word that\u2019s coming out of his mouth is what he stands for. Every sentence that he\u2019s breathing is going to define his values and personality over the next years.<\/p>\n The freedom of speaking involves the responsibility of doing every action connected to his words. Try to teach him that every time he states something, he needs to act in that direction.<\/p>\n Step four: teach your child what truth really is<\/p>\n If you are saying things like \u201ctruth is the opposite of lie\u201d then you are not doing anything valuable for your child\u2019s education.<\/p>\n The truth is a value and achieving this value is not an easy thing, especially for a child that\u2019s used to have everything he wants.<\/p>\n The truth is that value is deserved only by the highly respected people and the leaders that are giving their best to improve the life of others. The truth is primarily connected to making others’ life better.<\/p>\n Explaining to your child how telling the truth will impact others life, and sharing with him some stories about leaders and leadership will make him, eventually, see the truth as a value.<\/p>\n Step five: teach your child about vulnerability<\/p>\n Lying is often connected to hiding details and facts.<\/p>\n If your child is hiding something from you, he could lie to you. And he\u2019s doing that because he doesn\u2019t want to be vulnerable, especially if he\u2019s a boy, not a girl.<\/p>\n The society is teaching us, no matter if we are children or adults, that we have to hide our feelings and stay strong. In the eye of the society, we have to be those powerful heroes that never fall.<\/p>\n So, the society is lying to your child and then your child is lying to himself and to you.<\/p>\n For teaching your child about vulnerability, you need to show vulnerability. Say that you are sorry every time you make a mistake. Excuse yourself when you break something and take responsibility for everything you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n