{"id":363,"date":"2015-10-31T10:57:28","date_gmt":"2015-10-31T10:57:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.findaupair.com\/blog\/?p=363"},"modified":"2015-11-26T09:30:01","modified_gmt":"2015-11-26T09:30:01","slug":"how-to-discipline-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/findaupair.com\/blog\/how-to-discipline-children\/","title":{"rendered":"How to discipline children"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Every parent wants his children to be educated, behave well and respect other people. But these goals aren\u2019t always easy to achieve.<\/p>\n

Discipline is the process of teaching your child to obey rules or a code of behaviour. Discipline may involve both punishment and rewards. It may seem a simple mission at first glance.<\/p>\n

Before talking about ways to discipline your children, let’s take a look at the barriers of good behaviour and styles of parenting.<\/p>\n

There are two main types of children:
\n– those who are disrespectful and don’t listen;
\n– those who do listen, but deliberately disobey your rules.<\/p>\n

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According to\u00a0specialists\u00a0there are three styles of parenting<\/strong>:
\n– authoritative – it is the most effective form of parenting. It combines in a very balanced way authority and flexibility when dealing with behavioural challenges. This type of parent is very affectionate toward his\/her child.
\n– authoritarin – it is less effective. This parent although has clear expectations and consequences, he shows little affection toward his\/her child.
\n– permissive – it is a less effective form of parenting. The parent shows lots of affection, but provides little discipline.<\/p>\n

When you choose different discipline techniques you have to take into account your child’s type of behaviour, his temperament, age and your parenting style.<\/p>\n

Let’s take a look at some discipline techniques<\/strong> you may choose.<\/p>\n

Reward good behaviour<\/em><\/strong>
\nThis is one of the best methods to encourage your child to continue when he\/she’s doing something good. Try to compliment your child when he\/she has a good behaviour.<\/p>\n

Natural consequences<\/strong><\/em>
\nWhen your child does something wrong she or he will experience the result of that behaviour. This happens for example if a child deliberately breaks a toy, he or she no longer has that toy to play with.<\/p>\n

Logical consequences<\/strong><\/em>
\nYou have to describe to your child what consequences will be for bad behaviour. For example, if he doesn’t pick up his toys, he can’t play with them for a period.<\/p>\n

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Taking away privileges<\/strong><\/em>
\nWhen your child has a bad behaviour, you can take away from him something he values (like television privileges for the evening).<\/p>\n

Time outs<\/strong><\/em>
\nYou should have a time-out location, quiet and boring. This discipline technique works with child for whom the separation from the parent is truly seen as a deprivation.<\/p>\n

Corporal punishment and spanking<\/strong><\/em> is not recommended because your child can become more aggressive, you can harm him or he may begin to think that it’s OK to physically hurt someone you love.<\/p>\n

Tips for maintaining discipline<\/strong><\/p>\n

Your discipline technique has to fit well your child’s temperament<\/em> – you have to understand your child temperament and your aim should not be to turn him into someone he is not.<\/p>\n

Communicate your discipline plan<\/em> – if your child is old enough to understand, you should let him know your technique, why you are using it and what you want to accomplish.<\/p>\n

Respect your child<\/em> – if you respect your child he will respect you and other persons too. You know what they say, “Behave the way you want others to behave”.<\/p>\n

Be consisten<\/em>t – don’t break your discipline techniques.<\/p>\n

Understand what is appropriate for your child’s development<\/em> – make sure that your child is able to accomplish your demands.<\/p>\n

Try to understand “why”<\/em> – try to understand why bad behaviour occurs and then search for solutions.<\/p>\n

What discipline technique do you use with your child? Does it work well?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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